As moms we want nothing more in the world than for our families to be happy, especially this time of year.
We can get completely, and enjoyable lost in our children’s amazement. Watching their faces light up when they see Santa, or the holiday decorations or when they get to light the menorah.
But this time of year can be incredibly overwhelming as well. And by overwhelming I don’t just mean busy, but as a parent, this time of year comes with a huge range of emotional responses, many of which we are not prepared for. It seems for many of us we can go from sheer joy to sheer panic within the hour, on any given day.
As much as we love seeing our children’s pure joy, we can get caught up in seeking that reaction or that feeling. If our child gasped at the lights on the tree, then lets put up MORE lights. Wouldn’t they love to have breakfast with Santa or how excited would they be if we hand made that advent calendar we saw on Pinterest?
We also are often dealing with blending two (or more) families’ traditions. Especially when our children are young, many of us have not fully defined our own family traditions, so we are still trying to do everything each partner’s family always did. So you might find yourself doing double the activities because your family always did “A” and your spouses family always did “B,” so your family is doing all of them as you try to establish your own families traditions.
This is escalated even more for mixed religion families who are trying to give their children two different holidays at the same time.
Then add in the wonderful world of social media, we also see what the rest of our world is doing. So we might feel pressured to do the Elf on the Shelf because our girlfriend from high school is doing it with her kids. Or perhaps we are going to attempt to hand-make soap for every single teach this year, because we saw a tutorial on Pinterest.
All of these things are awesome and special and fun and I’m not suggesting we become scrooge and cancel the holidays all together. But just like eating one Christmas cookie is yummy and special, eating two dozen will make you sick and regret it.
So how about if we just create a little more space this year? A little White Space. What if we focused on little ways we can create more space, both physically and mentally, so we can really enjoy the most important parts of this time of year (and survive the rest!)
I think to truly have an enjoyable holiday we have to;
- Define what is most important to us about the Holidays and make those things a priority.
- Let go of or delegate some of the things that that are lower priority on our list (or are actually part of some other imaginary list.)
- Remember that our families ultimately want us to be happy, not overwhelmed. What would we wish for our own mothers or best friends to feel this time of year?
That is why this year I am Dreaming of a White (Space) Christmas. I just want to slow down a bit, focus on what is really important to me and my family and try to make it out of 2013 with some amount of sanity still in tact.
I want you to join me.
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If you can’t handle even one more thing demanding your attention, that’s ok too, just promise to create a little White Space of your own this Holiday Season.