I am excited to welcome Ursula Markgraf all the way from Germany today for our 3 questions with mama series! (If you missed the first one, you can read that here)! I love meeting mamas who are working towards finding their own groove and embracing their own revival and can give us some tips on their process…and reminders that it is process for all of us!
Hi Ursula! Before we start, tell us a little about you and your family.
My name is Ursula and my family consists of my husband, my two kids and our dog. My son is 3 and my daughter is 7 and I am at the moment still full-time taking care of my son. I am also working in my own business, which I built around my passion “creativity” – my dream is to inspire and encourage other women to be creative!
I started this business because I was super frustrated with the fact that my old job did not allow me to be there for my kids when I wanted to and I had to arrange all my life around that job. To me having a work that I love but that also allows me to live my life the way I want is just a dream come true! You can read more about it on my website www.ursulamarkgraf.com There you can also find my online-shop where I sell my handmade buttons.
Question #1: What is your favorite tip for taking care of yourself when you need a quick pick-me-up?
One of my favourite pick-me-ups is going for a walk. Even just a walk around the neighborhoud for a couple minutes gives me some quiet time and somehow grounds me and lets me be more calm. However, you need someone to watch the kids meanwhile. If I am alone with the kids and things are really crazy I will “take a break” by making myself a cup of tea. Also drawing a couple of deep breaths. This doesn’t sound like much but once I am more calm it is alot easier to cope.
Question #2: How do you find balance between your family and your personal time?
Oh goodness, who says I have balance?! I have to admit it took me quite long to realize that I even need time just for myself – no family, no business. But striving for balance totally stressed me. So I gave up. Best thing I ever did!
I do however make sure that I have time for myself EVERY DAY – even if it is only for a short meditation or 10 minutes of drawing. Just spending a couple minutes each day WITH and FOR myself makes a HUGE difference to how I feel!And better than waiting for a two-hour break at the weekend that might never happen.
Question #3. What is your favorite way to spend time with your kids?
I love to take my kids on “adventures”. (That is what they call it.) Going to the library, the zoo, or just to a park that they might not know yet is just awesome. Being with them in nature. However, those are things we do not do every day. Those are more the “special” days. I try to make sure to have many “calm” days where we just play in the big backyard, read, draw, craft, have a picnic – things that do not take alot of effort to do but are really enjoyable.
Thanks so much for answering my questions!
Be sure to head over to Ursula’s site and check out her amazing buttons, they truly are a work of art!