As moms, we often put everyone’s needs first, but then we end up exhausted, frustrated and sometimes cranky.
It can become a viscous cycle, Does this sound familiar?
I need to take better care of myself, but I don’t have time, which leaves me feeling more spent, which means I need more time to take better care of myself.
Self-care does not have to mean a day at the spa (although, I highly recommend that too!) or even that you need to be kid-free. You just have to put conscious effort into your own needs.
Taking care of yourself doesn’t have to take long, you just have to do it:
Try One of These:
Do Something Healthy First Thing In The Morning:
What you do in the morning sets your tone for the day. I’ve been starting my morning with a green juice and the fact that I have already had 3 servings of vegetables before morning cartoons are over is as much a boost to my ego as it is to my cells! Maybe for you it is exercise, or meditation, or journaling or just a large glass of water! I find that if I start off feeling good about myself, then that builds momentum and I keep doing little things to take care of myself all day.
Drink A Large Glass Of Water:
Speaking of water, we all know how important drinking it is, but, lets face it, sometimes we get busy! Dehydration can leads to headaches, bad moods and can even cause us to overeat. As I stated above I highly recommend starting you day off with a large glass of water, after all you haven’t had anything to drink in 8 hours! But, if your house is anything like mine, I take that glass of water and either I forget about it, or someone knocks it over before I finish it. So I sometimes stand at the kitchen sink and finish a whole glass of water. Then I know I got it in and I know its not going to end up spilled all over the couch.
Use Those Fancy Bath Products:
While in the shower the other morning, I picked up a body scrub in a fancy glass jar I had received as a gift many Christmases ago and was about to toss it in the spirit of getting rid of clutter. But then I wondered why I hadn’t used it. I realized I was saving it for a fancy luxurious bath I always want to take, but never seem to have the time for. So I opened it up, right there on a Wednesday morning, and used it. It smelled divine and made me smile and later in the day I noticed how smooth my skin felt. Why had I waited all this time to use it!?!? (Need a bath scrub? Try this Lavender Body Buff from Vintage Body Spa)
Plot Out A Break
Over the weekend we ended up at a store that had an amazing little play area for the kids; toys, a train table, a play kitchen…and comfy chairs for mom. I sat and finished my coffee, checked in on facebook on my phone and could hardly pry my kids away when it was time to go! I got a little break, my kids had fun and we were all recharged for the next activity! Figure out those places or activity you can add into your day to give you a chance to sit quietly and recharge, while still entertaining the kids! My other faves; the bouncy house at the farmers market, the play space at the mall (across from the coffee shop) and the library story time.
Buy Yourself Flowers
I have a friend who always has the most amazing bouquet of flowers on her dining room table. She buys herself flowers every week, usually the 5.99 ones at the grocery store, she says they make her happy all week when she looks at them. We are all on a budget these days, but treat yourself to flowers, or a new lip gloss or your favorite flavored coffee, then really take the time to enjoy your indulgence.
Want More Tips??
I am always looking for more tips to take care of myself so I asked my amazing community of mom friends for their bits of advice, and these are good:
- Mom Coach, Susan Balding, reminds us to “give to yourself first because if you don’t have any room for patience, nobody else’s day will go well either.”
- Natanya at Grow Together Parenting encourages us to “Forgive yourself. Know that you are doing your best. If you make a mistake, take a deep breath, forgive yourself, (apologize, if appropriate) and look forward to your next opportunity to make a different choice.”
- Momtographer, Beryl Young encourages us to “re-ignite your passion for a hobby or activity. Photography allows me to learn something new, be creative, and preserve my daughter’s milestones as she grows up. It’s a win-win as I take care of myself with my camera I am also caring for my family too by recording our memories together.”
Your Action Items For This Week:
Drink More Water
Speak nicely to yourself
Take a Break
Make a tiny bit of pampering part of your daily routine
What do you do to take care of yourself? Let me know in the comments below!