This is your year.
This is my year.
You know why?
Because, I said so.
There. That’s it. I said so.
And I am taking you with me.
Here is what we are going to do to make 2013 our year;
But because you’re a busy mom, I have made this post into a 3 part series over the next 3 days. I want you to be able to read and digest the information, not add one more long thing to your to do list.
Let’s get start today with finding your thing.
Part 1: Find Your Thing:
As moms we often let our “thing” fall by the wayside. I mean it is cliché to say so, right? “Mom’s needs come last.” No newsflash there. Then we get so removed from our “thing” that we’re not even sure what it is anymore.
Enter Mommy Guilt. Wow, mommy guilt is a sneaky b*$@#, isn’t she?? She gets us coming and going. If we know what our “thing” is, she might tell us “Oh…training for a marathon is going to take a lot of time away from your family” or “You’re going out with girlfriends again?? What about bedtime stories??”
And then, after we give everything up, Mommy Guilt STILL comes in the form of; “Wow, you should be taking better care of yourself, what kind of example are you setting for your daughter??” or “You should really pick that camera back up, you spent a lot of money on a hobby you don’t really do”
We are kind of in a lose-lose situation, aren’t we?
But what if we just ignored her? Even just for the next few minutes to remember what we want our thing to be. With out any input from our Mommy Guilt, what is your thing?
Let me tell you: Your thing does not have to be profound. Or worldly. Or philanthropic. Or about your family. (Don’t get me wrong; these can be your thing, if that really lights you up. Just don’t tell yourself, you should volunteer with homeless puppies, because it seems like an appropriate/worthwhile thing.)
If your thing is regular pedicures, great. If you want to learn to play the harmonica, awesome.
If you find yourself saying “I should….” Stop.
If your thing includes the phrase “be better at…” Stop
When we take the focus off what we should do, or what we should do better, or who we should help, we start to get back to our “thing.” The thing that rounds out our definition of ourselves (TWEET THIS!);
- Mother, wife, sister, harmonica player.
- Mom, entrepreneur, yogi, thrift store junkie.
So what is your thing? Or what is your first thing? What is that one thing you want to add to your life’s resume?
Once you choose, we can get on to tomorrow’s post of Finding The Time.
Find Your Thing in 2013
If you are having trouble defining your “thing,” I hope you’ll join me for a 30-minute hands on goal setting call next Tuesday, January 15th at 12 noon (pst). In just 30 minutes, we’ll talk about priorities, brainstorm possible “things”, and put supporting goals into place to insure your “thing” happens. You’ll hang up with a concrete plan to feel more fulfilled in 2013.