Am I a workaholic??
This is a question I’ve been asking myself for the past few weeks.
It started during a mastermind conversation with a group of highly talented, motivated, female entrepreneurs that I’m lucky enough to be a part of.
One of my colleagues made a comment that things were going very well in her business and maybe she didn’t need to launch something new in the fall,
She finished with “but I am a workaholic, I love this stuff!” and we all nodded in agreement.
Then, another chimed in with; “I’m not sure anything that ends in ‘’holic” is really a good thing.”
She agreed that she also always wants to work and related a story of needing to be ‘dragged out by her hair’ to go out with girlfriends, when she’d rather just stay and finish work projects.
Since then, I have not been able to stop thinking about this conversation.
What is the definition of being a workaholic and when are we just busy, productive and ambitious entrepreneurs?
If you’re like the four of us, you love what you do and you feel like you don’t have enough hours in the day to do everything that you want to help your business grow and flourish, especially if you are juggling motherhood too!
I cannot even tell you the premise of House of Cards or Game of Thrones. I get all my world news from Facebook. When given a full ‘day off’ for Mother’s Day, I chose to get a pedicure and then work at a coffee shop for 6 straight hours.
But as a Mama CEO, I work hard when I can so I have flexibility beyond a 9-5 job. I get to volunteer in my daughter’s preschool one day a week, and pick my kids up every single day from school. I can take my kids (and my business) to my parent’s house for a week during school breaks without using up vacation time.
And here is the thing, I DO love what I do. I am passionate about what I do for moms, I love that I am using my brain and contributing to my family’s finances.
But I’ll admit to feeling like if I am not working, or directly with my kids, that I am wasting time. Even sometimes things like sleeping, eating and showering seem to get in my entrepreneurial way.
So, maybe I am a bit of a workaholic.
Since that mastermind conversation, I have began working on a few new habits. Some of these are still a work in progress and some are changing habits I am not proud to admit!
No work after my kids go to bed
I found I wasn’t very productive anyway and this is time I now spend with my husband or just vegging out. (Maybe we’ll even start watching House of Cards?)
I changed my perception of the shower being a time suck and remembered that all my best ideas come in the shower. So I use it that way. I work until I hit a stumbling block and then I hit the shower mid morning… the idea always comes to me.
Standing Nights Out
I have become the facilitator of our monthly moms’nights out. I just do it, send the email, make the reservation, we ALL love when we get together.
My husband and I are about to schedule standing date nights as well. Our babysitter just quit her full time job and is looking for more work, my husband booked her for every other Saturday. At first I baulked at the cost, but this is an investment in my marriage, and we don’t have to do expensive dates, we can go to the bookstore, or out for just desert or take a picnic to the beach (oh that sounds fun!)
No Phone While Driving
First, yes, I know how dangerous this is, that should be reason enough. But I found myself checking email and replying to messages at stop lights. That stops, because I’m not a brain surgeon….nobody needs my reply that drastically.
I will continue to dictate blog posts, but only while using my headset and only when my kids are not in the car.
This is one of my favorite activities and I only went once this whole summer. Luckily, we have amazing Falls in the San Francisco Bay Area, so I have a few more months to get in some time on the water.
Walk to School More
We live just around the corner from my son’s elementary school, but I found myself driving him more and more, because it saved about 20 minutes in total. But he loves to ride his bike or scooter and I walk with my daughter in the stroller. We all chat with each other more, visit with neighbors walking and it is healthy for all of us too. Yes, it cuts into my work day a bit…but I think it is worth it.
Cut Myself Some Slack
Even in writing this blog post, I got to a point where I didn’t know what to say…I think I realized I am a bit of a workaholic and I wasn’t sure if I had any good advice to give. Mommy guilt started to creep in and I started feeling really bad about the way I was structuring my day.
But, the first step is being aware, making some realizations around why you make certain choices, being open to changing habits that don’t serve you…and not feeling bad for the ones that do!
I have 30 minutes before school pick up. How long is an episode of Orange is the New Black?