Hey, mamas. How is 2015 going as we head into the second month of the year?
I want to flourish this year, but this week I’m talking a little bit about my failures. Don’t get me wrong. I’m doing great in some areas—business is busy, ideas are flowing, my family’s great. But there’s one area where I’m not flourishing yet—taking care of me.
I know that if I want everything else to keep flourishing, I need to start getting self-care right. But I know this too: feeling guilty doesn’t get me anywhere. Sometimes I fall into the trap of feeling guilty about taking time for me. And then I feel guilty for not keeping up with my self-care goals. That’s a no-win situation.
So, I’m here to own up to my self-care mishaps so far this year:
Fail #1—A whole lotta lattes
Last week my daughter woke up at 3:30 AM freaked out by a moth near her head. A few minutes later, she was fast asleep. Me? I was still up as the sun rose. The next day, I had a Mama Mastermind call. Couldn’t miss that. Some client work. Another call.
What I really needed was a nap. What I gave myself was coffee—lots of it.
Now, you know I love my lattes. In fact, they’re one of my go to treats for myself, but there’s a difference between mainlining caffeine and slowing down for a moment to savor it.
Fail #2—Forgetting to fuel up
I get gas at the same time every week, so I never forget to feed my car. Still, like lots of busy moms, sometimes I forget to feed me.
Just last week I was talking with my friend Sara Bradford about eating right to fuel your business. Even with that recent reminder, I forgot to each lunch. Maybe I didn’t forget so much as I was on a roll with a project, and if I just kept going maybe I could get it done before my kids were home. Who’s been there?
Fail #3—All work and no pedicures
I’m overdue for a bunch of appointments—I need to get to the dentist, and I need a pedicure. I’d love to get a pedicure—but I can’t seem to make time for it. I don’t want to waste any of my kid-free time on non-work stuff.
Here’s the thing, I know I’d feel a lot better—and be more productive—if I did something for myself.
So what am I going to do about?
First, I’m letting go of the guilt. I’m giving myself some reminders to do the daily maintenance self-care, like going to bed on time and eating lunch. And I’m calling for that pedicure right now.
And I’m going to ask you all to help me—and you.
If you find yourself feeling like you are failing at self care, know you are not alone AND remember, selfcare should not be a burden.
So, what can we do?
Here’s where the fun fix comes in.
If you feel like you have already had a few self-care mishaps this year too, join me—guilt free—as we focus on taking care of ourselves in fun, easy ways this month on the blog and leading to the Mama Timeout Challenge over on Instagram at the end of the month (stay tuned for more info!)
In the mean time, here’s a quick self-care to-do list:
- Treat yourself
When you take care of yourself, your business flourishes, your family flourishes, you flourish. So let’s support each other.
In the comments, share one of your self-care mishaps—and one thing you are going to do for yourself this week.